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A Very Brave Man

There is a man, a very brave man, and I will call him Ted.  He has a fine wife and five very fine children.  He is a wholehearted Christ follower, and he is a broken man with weaknesses.  He is also mature enough to face his brokenness and seek help. That is what makes him […]

4 Essentail Skills Needed To Love Those In Pain

Recently I was reminded of the story “Unbroken”, an amazing true story of Luis Zamperini who suffered enormously from Japanese captors during WWII, and after the end of the war sought to love and forgive his enemies.  But in sharp contrast to his Christlike overtures was his one particular Japanese enemy who because of shame, […]

One Vital Truth; We Need Relationships To Heal

One Vital Truth; We Need Relationships To Heal

Our God designed our brain to be formed and flourish with healthy relationships. It is a core of defining who we are and what we need throughout our lives.  Once I treated a little girl who had been incested by an uncle.  She was blessed by the unusual circumstance of having a mom who believed […]

Get The 19 Brain Skills That Will Change Your Life

Get The 19 Brain Skills That Will Change Your Life

It was all so sudden. He had the barrel of a gun pressed into the side of my head. He made me lie face down on the floor of our master bedroom. He demanded to know when others in the household were due to be back. Frantically I raced in my mind to think of […]

#metoo, And You also

In the quiet of the morning today, sitting in front of a fire with my morning coffee, I reveled in the amazing wondrous sound of rolling thunder, especially rare in the month of May.  I love thunder.  Where I live such sounds are an extraordinary phenomena. Most of you know I was raped at gunpoint […]

A Shocking Truth About Our Children

A Shocking Truth About Our Children

I had a little one as a client many years ago.  She had a great mom who believed this little one’s story of sexual abuse.  Mom immediately went into action.  She filed charges, brought her precious daughter to therapy, and was fully supported for her.  I recall before this child was to go to court […]

A Second Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

A Second Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

Wow! I just returned from England.  While jet lag is still hanging around, I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to go with Road’s Scholar and learn about the Lake District; Beatrix Potter and the poet Wordsworth land, as I call it. Then, to Northumberland to stand and touch Hadrian’s wall.  I was […]

One Lie That Seems Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

One Lie That Seems  Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

I really believe in the 4 R’s of recovery of sexual assault.  I have lived and am living on this Unintended Journey.  I have worked with hundreds of clients.  I have extrapolated the sequence of this Unintended Journey through the above as well as being trained.  When I was an intern, I had a supervisor […]

One Outrage Is Spurring Hope

One Outrage Is Spurring Hope

After I was raped I lived in PTSD for months with the rapist as my backyard neighbor.  He was out on $250,000 bail in 1982, a huge sum then.  It took months for a conviction and sentencing; not for my case, but the one he was out on bail for.  I went to his sentencing.  […]

One Big Way To Try To Stay Peaceful

One Big Way To Try To Stay Peaceful

To be honest, there are times when denial seems a lot more comfortable.  I do dream of taking a trip down ‘de Nile. Ahhh, maybe it will happen someday. To keep the peace, rather than being peacemakers seems so much easier.  If denial wasn’t living a lie(s) then lets face it, wouldn’t we all want […]