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After the Ravaged Stage, which typically lasts 3-6 months, just like  our  smart God-created brains go right to work to heal a bruise or a cut, so the brain tries to heal itself of the trauma it has experienced.  Sometimes we end up in what I call Academy Award Winning Recovery. Forces within and without […]

Is There Empirical Evidence Of Healing?

Is There Empirical Evidence Of Healing?

What evidence might be had that a brain is healed from sexual assault?  I have a story. I went to a psychologist a few years ago for Neuro-feedback to find out if it would help relieve a pain condition I suffer from.  He became extremely puzzled when he was taking some history.  When I talked […]

How To Overcome The Enemy

The following is a true story sent to me by a long ago former client.  It is used with her consent and I have changed her name. Hi, my name is ‘Suzie’, and I am a grateful child of God. When I was eight, my grandma died, and I no longer had any kind, loving […]

The Second Aftershock…

The Second Aftershock…

I jumped out of a plane two weeks ago.  I did it with no fear.  The most amazing thing was how peaceful and beautiful it was.  Working through these stages increases peace and enjoyment.  They are essential. I entered this second part of Ravaged (Anger and depression) with a vengeance.  I remained stuck in this […]

The First Aftershock…

The First  Aftershock…

I often wondered immediately after my own rape, Did this really happen?  I feel fine.  This can’t be happening to me! Everything and everyone seemed surreal for awhile.  I could not be left alone for the first two weeks after the rape.  In fact, I do not recall anything about my children-talking to them or […]

Four Things Men Can Do To Help Stop Sexual Assaults

How can men get involved in the fight against gender violence? Join Brown’s Sexual Assault Peer Education (SAPE) Program! In this program, Brown students are trained in a nationally recognized bystander intervention model, “Bringing in the Bystander.”  Students then pair up and provide workshops to the Brown community about how to be a pro-social bystander […]

Yppee! Brave Miss World!

Yppee! Brave Miss World!

It has been a couple of years since I first went to a preview of this movie.  I am so glad it is now on Netflix.  I watched it the other night.  I have blogged on this movie before.  They changed the title from Miss World to Brave Miss World.  Her journey begins with the […]

Is the world waking up?

Lydia Polgreen from the New York wrote an excellent article about rape in South Africa.  In it I find both encouragement and outrage at injustice. What I find so encouraging (not the story itself, but the aftermath):  In Bredasdorp South Africa Anene Booysen was able to tell police who rape her before she died of […]

What About the Children?

At the risk of of over commenting here on this Sandusky thing,  I just was so struck by an article “Sandusky investigation turns up emails” by Mike Dawson, McClatchy Newspapers, that I will not just let it go.  The article describes how three Penn State officials were emailing about the incident where Sandusky was seen […]

Catching Up

Hello all, we just returned from a nice trip visiting some of our country’s (USA) national parks, landmarks, and even getting to stay in a national historic hotel.  We went through the Oregon caves.  So fascinating.  We wanted to do the 3 hour off trail caving experience but were too early in the year. Back […]