Types of Sexual Violence

It occurs to me that the different types of SV that I have written about in my book are going to take several blogs.  When I am done with them, I plan on doing some more about the ‘SV brain cancer.’  There may be other types I have missed, so, please feel free to add to the list.

From Redeem The Silence; an Unintended Journey:

A tumor found in my friend’s torso during a routine check up was found to be benign, but would have caused internal bleeding and death if gone unchecked.  Had the tumor been malignant, it would also have resulted in death.  Benign or malignant, the tumor was a silent killer.  It had to be cut away.  The event of any type of SV (sexual violence) is like a tumor of the soul/brain.  If the magnitude of the experience remains unhealed it will destroy your emotional, spiritual and psychological health, wrecking havoc in your life.

In SV, a violation has occurred whether or not you are aware of it or choose to ignore it.  Healing can begin when we face the hard reality of truth, even when truth is ugly and we don’t want to face it.  As you read through the following descriptions, you may determine whether you or someone you know is a survivor of one or more of these types of SV.  These are not legal descriptions of rape meant for legal prosecution, though it may be healing and appropriate for you to prosecute.  Rather, these definitions are to help you determine the truth about what happened, and by acknowledging it, seek healing in God’s good grace.

These types of SV are alphabetized. 

Unless otherwise indicated, all the following examples of types of SV include stories.  These are composites of many survivor stories.  All names are fictitious.  The examples do not represent any actual people.

Acquaintance Rape

STATISTICS:  Research tells us that rape by acquaintances, including boyfriends and husbands, is more common than rape by strangers.  Approximately 89% of rapes are by someone the victim knows at least to some degree.  (“Acquaintance Rape/Non-Stranger Rape,” GMU Sexual Assault Services Home, April 1, 2009, http://www2.gme.edu/dpt/unilife/sexual//NSRStats.htm)

This statistic includes other types of SV where the perpetrator is known to the victim, such as in incest.  If we think about it, this actually makes sense.  I have heard that most car accidents occur within 25 miles of home.  Well, of course, that is our most common driving range.  So it is with SV predators.  Most of them are in the victims’ world in some way.

Definition: A some level, an acquaintance, however remote, has gained the victim’s trust.  He knows something about her/his schedules, activities and/or family.  These predators are uniquely dangerous because they are allowed into the victim’s space, increasing her vulnerability to attack.  Insidious, and usually not overtly violent, manipulation can be part of the assault plan.  The perpetrator may charm her, set her up to feel a sense of obligation, flatter, or ingratiate himself to her.  Most likely he’s given no previous signs of being a dangerous person and may be on the periphery of her life in some way to point where she has become accustomed to his presence. 

A story example will given next time…

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