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One Lie That Seems Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

One Lie That Seems  Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

I really believe in the 4 R’s of recovery of sexual assault.  I have lived and am living on this Unintended Journey.  I have worked with hundreds of clients.  I have extrapolated the sequence of this Unintended Journey through the above as well as being trained.  When I was an intern, I had a supervisor […]

Is There Empirical Evidence Of Healing?

Is There Empirical Evidence Of Healing?

What evidence might be had that a brain is healed from sexual assault?  I have a story. I went to a psychologist a few years ago for Neuro-feedback to find out if it would help relieve a pain condition I suffer from.  He became extremely puzzled when he was taking some history.  When I talked […]

The First Aftershock…

The First  Aftershock…

I often wondered immediately after my own rape, Did this really happen?  I feel fine.  This can’t be happening to me! Everything and everyone seemed surreal for awhile.  I could not be left alone for the first two weeks after the rape.  In fact, I do not recall anything about my children-talking to them or […]

How To Have Healing and Ongoing Hope

HOPE.  There wasn’t any for me or so I thought.  I was raped September 22, 1982.  It was mid-morning, in my home, on my bed.  My mind raced to make sense out of the seemingly impossible.  Was this some kind of a bad practical joke?  Had my brother-in law gotten off of work to pull […]

New Website Announcement!

Dear Readers, Next time, I will be getting back to where last left off on the Unintended Journey of the 4 R’s of Recovery; my real passion.  These give hope and healing to survivors. Awareness, discovery and convictions are fabulous.  And a single survivor’s healing is just as important; maybe even more so? Meanwhile, this […]

Picking up on the stage of Reorganization from May 18

Well, a truly more informed book update is that it now 2-3 weeks from completion.  I am awaiting the actual date and will post it right away.  It will be available as an e-book for $3.99, paperback 17.99 and hardcover $30.95.  It will be available at Westbow Press, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, a link will […]

More on Ravaged

This post will continue where I left off August 8, 2010 on the first stage of Recovery, the Ravaged stage.  In my book I have the Four R’s; Ravaged, Reorganization, Resolution, and Redemption. Immediately after the attack I had run to the neighbors who were home sleeping during the day (they had night jobs).  I […]

Ravaged Continued

Just a follow-up on my knee surgery…it is now 4.5 weeks from surgery.  All is well.  I am walking 3 miles most days and back to a bit of weight lifting.  It all feels good.  I just cannot move the knee sideways at all.  My bent is to over-do it.  If I do well though, […]

Signs of Resolution

In my previous blog I mentioned the Four R’s  of recovery from SV. Just to review, they are: Ravaged Reorganization Resolution Redemption Here are some symptoms of Resolution.  Don’t be concerned if you are not noticing any of them.  To get here usually takes a lot of work.  The following is from my book Redeem […]