More on Date Rape

Some of you might be questioning Katie because she invited the guy up to her room. Maybe you blame her. I say that we need to go back to how unprepared she was to face these kinds of things. She was niave, shy, and the chances her parents prepared her college life and how to be wise about how to protect herself are slim. I deduct this by their very hurtful responses to their daughter. They are blaming her. Her mother believes a lie. So, let’s be careful before we judge her for inviting this guys up to her room. It sounds like she was trusting and niave.

Commentary: I feel so angry right now as I think about the insidiousness of date rape. What makes it one of the most dangerous types is the rape culture all around us that we cannot see because we are so immersed in it. While the above young woman was aware she had been raped, her atacker most likley was socialized to belive he was entitled to do what he did . After all, he had taken her out to dinner, didn’t she owe him something? This kind of thinking is so far from Jesus example of a servant leader who gives and loves us and demands nothing back that the stretch between feels unfathomable. The slap on the wrist form the college is horrendously inadequate of course, but also not loving to him, as it colluded to help him not face the truth about himself. He also has probably done it again.

Elsewhere I have commented on various parts of the mission trip to Peru that I went on with International Justice Mission. I was scheduled to speak to the community and state leaders at a conference. As part of our team, we had a journalist from Indiana. She was really sharp. She was with us because IJM is very creative and uses different mediums to infiltrate and change a community. Her job was to write articles for the local press. During my talk I took many questions from the audience, something I love to do. Afterwards this journalist came up to me and told me how she was teaching her daughters about paying their own way on dates in order to avoid date rape. I just said that well, that may be good, but I want to teach my daughter that the kind of man who will make a good and Godly husband would be one who would pursue and date her without expecting anything in return. Exacly like Christ. I don’t think I said those last three words though. She just said a soft “oh” and seemed to be pondering such a thought.

Scripture tells us to keep ourselves from being polluted by the world (James chapter one). It seems to me that not teaching our sons and daughters about the realities of the way the world thinks and how these compare to what scripture says is more evidence of how we are enculturated and immersed like the frog in the frying pan about sexual violence issues.

“Scenes of blood and cruelty are shocking to our ear and heart. What man has nerve to do man has not nerve to hear. What brother-man and brother-Christian must suffer cannot be told to us even in our secret chamber, it so harrows up the soul. And yet, Oh my country! these things are done under the shadow of thy laws! O Christ! Thy Church sees them, almost in silence!” (“Uncle Tom’s Cabin”, Harriet Beecher Stowe, c.1929, sixteenth impression, p.410) For those of you who do not know, she wrote this book when slavery was legal and it helped to change the country.
Something wierd is going on with getting this blog done, so I cannot find how to get the title into italics.

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