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How Safe Is Your Child’s Teacher? “Kristen’s Secret”…48 Hours

How Safe Is Your Child’s Teacher?  “Kristen’s Secret”…48 Hours


I love being outside; hiking, camping, biking, kayaking, and walking with friends.  I want to parachute.  I want to backpack.  I don’t like Facebook or Twitter or any of that stuff.  My intuitive therapist brain just doesn’t connect with all that, or even have a clue how computers work.  The younger generations have grown up with a language I do not know.  I can only speak a few words of it!  So imagine my surprise when ’48 Hours’ did a show (Nov. 19, 2014 Kristen’s Secret) and they offered a live Twitter chat on why survivors do not report sexual abuse.   For those of you who do Twitter, you might be able to find out what 48 hours is telling survivors the reasons are.   If you do, please send it in as a comment so we can learn what keeps the Code of Silence going.

Their show was about teacher/student sexual violations (October 19, 2014).  An attorney they had said it was an epidemic.  For exposure of the problem it was very well done (healing process was not addressed).  One comment on the 48 hour website said how awful it is Kristen has to live with these horrors the rest of her life.  NO!  Not true, yet so many people think that.  I just wish I could shout it out for all the world to hear that the damage to her brain is repairable!  In fact, Kristen is already on the Unintended Journey because she has told her story (no longer a secret), with great courage has gone on national television, and even cooperated with police to convict one of the teachers.  Another teacher whose abuse the show profiled committed suicide when he was caught. ‘Jane Doe’ said how they just went on as if his being caught and killing himself had never happened.  We want such ignoring to make the bad stuff go away, but it doesn’t.  It is a lie that time heals all wounds, yet how often do you hear it?   Years of the Code of Silence operating had kept survivors silent and so it went on.  I am not blaming the survivors when I say that.  Our culture has given us good reasons not to tell.  Some are threats from the abuser, a really common one is the survivor blaming her/himself as having somehow causing it (shame), not wanting to ‘rock the boat’, fear of not being believed ( especially by parents), fears, and there are a myriad of other reasons.

Kristen was at a common age for flashbacks and nightmares to begin. These things are not to be feared, but embraced.  It is your brain telling you now is the time to deal with this stuff.  Not all survivors get those particular symptoms though.  She is very fortunate to have a great husband.  As I write in my book, the support of family and friends gives an excellent prognosis for healing.  She said she will never forgive.  She isn’t able to right now.  If she continues on her Unintended Journey she will be able to forgive and then realize she is doing it to free herself, not the teacher(s).  They are guilty, period.…/48hours-investigates-sex-abuse-by-wo…

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