Friends

One of my best friends just flew home yesterday after about a week and half visit.  Friends.  I have been friends with this woman for close to 30 years.  We know one another quite well.  We have listened to one another go through many stages of life from raising kids to middle age problems.  We went to church together for many years, and were work out buddies a lot.  We really became close when we both joined a runners group at our church.  We ran races; most were 6 kilometer races, but she was really brave and did a marathon once.  I ran the last eight miles with her.  Well, I supported, pushed, encouraged her through the blisters and exhaustion she went through, not really ran them with her.  But she finished, and was far from being the last one to do so.  How many of us can put that on our resumes of accomplishments!  Not me!

We had so much fun.  We shopped.  We got pedicures.  We sometimes sat around in our pajamas until mid-day.  We enjoyed breakfast on the patio.  We went to a fun women’s luncheon and fashion show and shopped some more!  We just sat in lounge chairs on the patio and were silent some, talked some.  Well, actually throughout the visit we talked a lot!!  We do have to get out our official allotment of words as women you know.

It was time off for me.  Time off from working on the blogs, book and website.  What kind of break could be better?  We are friends for life and we know it.  We love one another deeply.  We know some things about one another that few others do.  She is in my ‘inner circle’ of friends.  Only a handful of special people are in that circle.

We are part of a home church group.  So, our group is small enough to meet in one anothers’ homes.  This week the women in the group started meeting together for the first time.  I felt so sad for one woman who has lived in the area for 11 years and does not have any local women friends.  She is not unusual in having this problem.  I hope that this group will change some of that for her.  We need one another.  God made us this way. 

As survivors, we especially need good friends.  Male survivors do too.  We need the flood of fun, companionship, and break that such friendships can offer.  How to have really good, safe, fun, friends for a lifetime?  Well, it is usually a journey.  It might take some reading about what makes a good friend.  It might take some action of reaching out.  It might mean learning about who is safe, and who is not. 

I thank God for all of my precious friends.

Comments

  1. Thank you Sherrill for your blog on friendships. I consider our friendship such a blessing that keeps growing over the years. Yes, we do know each other very well – you have seen all my flaws, warts and all, and still love me! I have a few friends in that inner circle too! I could not have made it this far in life without those friendships. Even though I now live in another state, our connection remains strong and I cherish that. In making that move, away from my cherished friends, I had to make new friends – and now I have

  2. Thank you Sherrill for your blog on friendships. I consider our friendship such a blessing that keeps growing over the years. Yes, we do know each other very well – you have seen all my flaws, warts and all, and still love me! I have a few friends in that inner circle too! I could not have made it this far in life without those friendships. Even though I now live in another state, our connection remains strong and I cherish that. In making that move, away from my cherished friends, I had to make new friends – and now I have

  3. continuing – (these keys on my computer are so sensitive – sent my reply before I was finished! The nerve! Ha! Where is the delete key when I need it?)and now I have a few more “close” friends.

    Some friends come into your life for a season or a reason, then, they are off, sometimes that season is short, and then there are those who will be with you for a life-time.

    Let me tell you about 2 of my friends. Friend #1 – we met at the bus stop the first day of Junior High – we were nerds! We became fast friends – sleepovers, long talks about boys, hopes and dreams. We were best friends through high school and then, I moved, we lost contact and there was a big hole in my heart. I often dreamt about finding her – what happened to her? Then, recently, almost 43 years later, I found her on FB!I could hardly believe it – how do we get re-aquainted? Where do you start? The first time we talked on the phone, it was 2 and a half hours! We made plans to get together – I flew out to spend a week with her. Several of our friends asked – what if we didn’t like each other, what then – it never entered my mind! Of course, we would pick up where we left off! I had found my long lost best friend, my soul mate, we had sealed our bond in blood so many years ago. We had a wonderful time together, catching up! Life had taken us in very different directions but that didn’t matter to me – we had found each other and that was all that mattered. Or was it? After I got home, we had 2 brief phone converstions (initiated by me) and I have never heard from her since. What happened?
    I don’t know. It hurts. I try not to jump to conclusions – should I keep trying to make contact?

    Friend #2 – I met her around the same time I found Friend #1! I was asked if I could drive her to church – she is in a wheelchair and can’t drive. I had seen her at church but had never talked to her – why? I don’t know. After that first Sunday, we made a connection – I have found a jewel in her – we are doing things together – I pick her up and we have coffee at Moxi Java – and most of all, we enjoy each other’s company! I am so blessed to have her as a friend.

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