A Shocking Truth About Our Children

A Shocking Truth About Our Children

I had a little one as a client many years ago.  She had a great mom who believed this little one’s story of sexual abuse.  Mom immediately went into action.  She filed charges, brought her precious daughter to therapy, and was fully supported for her.  I recall before this child was to go to court […]

The First Of A Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

The First Of A Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

The following is a true story from a former client many years ago.  At that time posting sex offenders online was a new resource.  She became concerned about a man whom she knew was teaching children’s Sunday school at her church.  He had been in jail for incest. She confirmed his identity through this then […]

One Big Way To Try To Stay Peaceful

One Big Way To Try To Stay Peaceful

To be honest, there are times when denial seems a lot more comfortable.  I do dream of taking a trip down ‘de Nile. Ahhh, maybe it will happen someday. To keep the peace, rather than being peacemakers seems so much easier.  If denial wasn’t living a lie(s) then lets face it, wouldn’t we all want […]

ACADEMY AWARD WINNING RECOVERY

After the Ravaged Stage, which typically lasts 3-6 months, just like  our  smart God-created brains go right to work to heal a bruise or a cut, so the brain tries to heal itself of the trauma it has experienced.  Sometimes we end up in what I call Academy Award Winning Recovery. Forces within and without […]

Is There Empirical Evidence Of Healing?

Is There Empirical Evidence Of Healing?

What evidence might be had that a brain is healed from sexual assault?  I have a story. I went to a psychologist a few years ago for Neuro-feedback to find out if it would help relieve a pain condition I suffer from.  He became extremely puzzled when he was taking some history.  When I talked […]

One Surprising Bill Cosby Legacy

One Surprising Bill Cosby Legacy

Great joy for all of you who had the great blessing of sharing the holidays with friends and family.  I had some fun time with both and I count it all joy! The new year brings in some encouraging news for survivors and their families. The opinion page of the Sacramento Bee says Bill Cosby’s […]

How To Overcome The Enemy

The following is a true story sent to me by a long ago former client.  It is used with her consent and I have changed her name. Hi, my name is ‘Suzie’, and I am a grateful child of God. When I was eight, my grandma died, and I no longer had any kind, loving […]

The Second Aftershock…

The Second Aftershock…

I jumped out of a plane two weeks ago.  I did it with no fear.  The most amazing thing was how peaceful and beautiful it was.  Working through these stages increases peace and enjoyment.  They are essential. I entered this second part of Ravaged (Anger and depression) with a vengeance.  I remained stuck in this […]

The Great “Time Will Heal All Wounds” Hoax

The Great “Time Will Heal All Wounds” Hoax

Did any of you do these as a kid?  I remember doing them and really having fun with it. Time will not heal all wounds, especially violations of the brain, heart and soul.  Sexual violations are unique because they invade sacred places within us.  It is amazing to me that people believe time alone can […]

Nine Ways Our Faith Communities Can Help

Just a reminder April is Sexual Violence Awareness month.  More on this next month! Hope: A life raft…. Scholarly author Marie Marshall Fortune in her book Sexual Violence The Unmentionable Sin: An Ethical and Pastoral Perspective writes about a pastor who announced to his congregation that he would be attending a conference on sexual abuse.  […]