A Shocking Truth About Our Children

A Shocking Truth About Our Children

I had a little one as a client many years ago.  She had a great mom who believed this little one’s story of sexual abuse.  Mom immediately went into action.  She filed charges, brought her precious daughter to therapy, and was fully supported for her.  I recall before this child was to go to court […]

A Second Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

A Second Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

Wow! I just returned from England.  While jet lag is still hanging around, I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to go with Road’s Scholar and learn about the Lake District; Beatrix Potter and the poet Wordsworth land, as I call it. Then, to Northumberland to stand and touch Hadrian’s wall.  I was […]

One Lie That Seems Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

One Lie That Seems  Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

I really believe in the 4 R’s of recovery of sexual assault.  I have lived and am living on this Unintended Journey.  I have worked with hundreds of clients.  I have extrapolated the sequence of this Unintended Journey through the above as well as being trained.  When I was an intern, I had a supervisor […]

What A Rubik’s Cube Can Teach You About Your Brain

Ever tried to complete what is to me the mystifying Rubik’s Cube?  I keep reorganizing it and reorganizing it until I finally give up.  I watched a very special 10 year old try a small one recently.  She is very smart, and eventually she gave up too! Our Brains are the most amazing creations! I […]

ACADEMY AWARD WINNING RECOVERY

After the Ravaged Stage, which typically lasts 3-6 months, just like  our  smart God-created brains go right to work to heal a bruise or a cut, so the brain tries to heal itself of the trauma it has experienced.  Sometimes we end up in what I call Academy Award Winning Recovery. Forces within and without […]

How To Overcome The Enemy

The following is a true story sent to me by a long ago former client.  It is used with her consent and I have changed her name. Hi, my name is ‘Suzie’, and I am a grateful child of God. When I was eight, my grandma died, and I no longer had any kind, loving […]

The Second Aftershock…

The Second Aftershock…

I jumped out of a plane two weeks ago.  I did it with no fear.  The most amazing thing was how peaceful and beautiful it was.  Working through these stages increases peace and enjoyment.  They are essential. I entered this second part of Ravaged (Anger and depression) with a vengeance.  I remained stuck in this […]

The Great “Time Will Heal All Wounds” Hoax

The Great “Time Will Heal All Wounds” Hoax

Did any of you do these as a kid?  I remember doing them and really having fun with it. Time will not heal all wounds, especially violations of the brain, heart and soul.  Sexual violations are unique because they invade sacred places within us.  It is amazing to me that people believe time alone can […]

A Duggar Warning: The Lost Opportunity

So our iconic Duggar family has been tragically discredited.  As I look at what is out there about the disclosure of Josh’s molestations, it seems to me that the vast majority of responses are taking sides to either defend or discredit.  I hope to be impartial, understanding that they have been held up to be […]

Warning: Two Common Hope Mistakes

Hello all, What a week!  Our flooring is being installed for a third time in one year and five months.  The hope to find in this complicated story is that it is almost done!  Yay! What I see as a ‘hidden hope’ many do not realize can be found in a story in last Sunday’s […]