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It was all so sudden. He had the barrel of a gun pressed into the side of my head. He made me lie face down on the floor of our master bedroom. He demanded to know when others in the household were due to be back. Frantically I raced in my mind to think of an answer, all the while only thinking of … Continue reading

#metoo, And You also

In the quiet of the morning today, sitting in front of a fire with my morning coffee, I reveled in the amazing wondrous sound of rolling thunder, especially rare in the month of May.  I love thunder.  Where I live such sounds are an extraordinary phenomena. Most of you know I was raped at … Continue reading

The Church’s Weinstein Moment: Nailing Some Theses for Assault to the door of the Church

“Silence can be a sickness that grows like a cancer in your soul. And it is well past time for the church to face it: Culture is having its Weinstein, cleaning house moment — and if the church chooses to be a safe house for predators instead of victims, God Himself will bring down every […]

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A Shocking Truth About Our Children

I had a little one as a client many years ago.  She had a great mom who believed this little one’s story of sexual abuse.  Mom immediately went into action.  She filed charges, brought her precious daughter to therapy, and was fully supported for her.  I recall before this child was to go to court […]

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A Second Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

Wow! I just returned from England.  While jet lag is still hanging around, I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to go with Road’s Scholar and learn about the Lake District; Beatrix Potter and the poet Wordsworth land, as I call it. Then, to Northumberland to stand and touch Hadrian’s wall.  I was […]

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The First Of A Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

The following is a true story from a former client many years ago.  At that time posting sex offenders online was a new resource.  She became concerned about a man whom she knew was teaching children’s Sunday school at her church.  He had been in jail for incest. She confirmed his identity through this then […]

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One Lie That Seems Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

I really believe in the 4 R’s of recovery of sexual assault.  I have lived and am living on this Unintended Journey.  I have worked with hundreds of clients.  I have extrapolated the sequence of this Unintended Journey through the above as well as being trained.  When I was an intern, I had a supervisor […]

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One Outrage Is Spurring Hope

After I was raped I lived in PTSD for months with the rapist as my backyard neighbor.  He was out on $250,000 bail in 1982, a huge sum then.  It took months for a conviction and sentencing; not for my case, but the one he was out on bail for.  I went to his sentencing.  […]

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One Big Way To Try To Stay Peaceful

To be honest, there are times when denial seems a lot more comfortable.  I do dream of taking a trip down ‘de Nile. Ahhh, maybe it will happen someday. To keep the peace, rather than being peacemakers seems so much easier.  If denial wasn’t living a lie(s) then lets face it, wouldn’t we all want […]

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Two Spotlights on Spotlight

The film that wins Best Picture might not have been everyone’s first choice, but it will have had the most fans across the Academy.  The vote of the overall Academy chooses best picture. I have contemplated the significance of the movie Spotlight winning the Oscar for Best Picture.  I am delighted it did.  I believe […]

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