A Shocking Truth About Our Children

I had a little one as a client many years ago.  She had a great mom who believed this little one's story of sexual abuse.  Mom immediately went into action.  She filed charges, brought her precious daughter to therapy, and was fully supported for her.  I recall before this child was to go to court I … Continue reading

A Second Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

Wow! I just returned from England.  While jet lag is still hanging around, I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to go with Road's Scholar and learn about the Lake District; Beatrix Potter and the poet Wordsworth land, as I call it. Then, to Northumberland to stand and touch Hadrian's wall.  … Continue reading

The First Of A Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

The following is a true story from a former client many years ago.  At that time posting sex offenders online was a new resource.  She became concerned about a man whom she knew was teaching children’s Sunday school at her church.  He had been in jail for incest. She confirmed his identity through this then […]

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One Lie That Seems Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

I really believe in the 4 R’s of recovery of sexual assault.  I have lived and am living on this Unintended Journey.  I have worked with hundreds of clients.  I have extrapolated the sequence of this Unintended Journey through the above as well as being trained.  When I was an intern, I had a supervisor […]

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One Outrage Is Spurring Hope

After I was raped I lived in PTSD for months with the rapist as my backyard neighbor.  He was out on $250,000 bail in 1982, a huge sum then.  It took months for a conviction and sentencing; not for my case, but the one he was out on bail for.  I went to his sentencing.  […]

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One Big Way To Try To Stay Peaceful

To be honest, there are times when denial seems a lot more comfortable.  I do dream of taking a trip down ‘de Nile. Ahhh, maybe it will happen someday. To keep the peace, rather than being peacemakers seems so much easier.  If denial wasn’t living a lie(s) then lets face it, wouldn’t we all want […]

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Two Spotlights on Spotlight

The film that wins Best Picture might not have been everyone’s first choice, but it will have had the most fans across the Academy.  The vote of the overall Academy chooses best picture. I have contemplated the significance of the movie Spotlight winning the Oscar for Best Picture.  I am delighted it did.  I believe […]

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What A Rubik’s Cube Can Teach You About Your Brain

Ever tried to complete what is to me the mystifying Rubik’s Cube?  I keep reorganizing it and reorganizing it until I finally give up.  I watched a very special 10 year old try a small one recently.  She is very smart, and eventually she gave up too! Our Brains are the most amazing creations! I […]

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After the Ravaged Stage, which typically lasts 3-6 months, just like  our  smart God-created brains go right to work to heal a bruise or a cut, so the brain tries to heal itself of the trauma it has experienced.  Sometimes we end up in what I call Academy Award Winning Recovery. Forces within and without […]

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Is There Empirical Evidence Of Healing?

What evidence might be had that a brain is healed from sexual assault?  I have a story. I went to a psychologist a few years ago for Neuro-feedback to find out if it would help relieve a pain condition I suffer from.  He became extremely puzzled when he was taking some history.  When I talked […]

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