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A Very Brave Man

There is a man, a very brave man, and I will call him Ted.  He has a fine wife and five very fine children.  He is a wholehearted Christ follower, and he is a broken man with weaknesses.  He is also mature enough to face his brokenness and seek help. That is what makes him so … Continue reading

4 Essentail Skills Needed To Love Those In Pain

Recently I was reminded of the story “Unbroken”, an amazing true story of Luis Zamperini who suffered enormously from Japanese captors during WWII, and after the end of the war sought to love and forgive his enemies.  But in sharp contrast to his Christlike overtures was his one particular Japanese … Continue reading

One Vital Truth; We Need Relationships To Heal

Our God designed our brain to be formed and flourish with healthy relationships. It is a core of defining who we are and what we need throughout our lives.  Once I treated a little girl who had been incested by an uncle.  She was blessed by the unusual circumstance of having a mom who believed […]

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Get The 19 Brain Skills That Will Change Your Life

It was all so sudden. He had the barrel of a gun pressed into the side of my head. He made me lie face down on the floor of our master bedroom. He demanded to know when others in the household were due to be back. Frantically I raced in my mind to think of […]

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#metoo, And You also

In the quiet of the morning today, sitting in front of a fire with my morning coffee, I reveled in the amazing wondrous sound of rolling thunder, especially rare in the month of May.  I love thunder.  Where I live such sounds are an extraordinary phenomena. Most of you know I was raped at gunpoint […]

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The Church’s Weinstein Moment: Nailing Some Theses for Assault to the door of the Church

“Silence can be a sickness that grows like a cancer in your soul. And it is well past time for the church to face it: Culture is having its Weinstein, cleaning house moment — and if the church chooses to be a safe house for predators instead of victims, God Himself will bring down every […]

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A Shocking Truth About Our Children

I had a little one as a client many years ago.  She had a great mom who believed this little one’s story of sexual abuse.  Mom immediately went into action.  She filed charges, brought her precious daughter to therapy, and was fully supported for her.  I recall before this child was to go to court […]

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A Second Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

Wow! I just returned from England.  While jet lag is still hanging around, I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to go with Road’s Scholar and learn about the Lake District; Beatrix Potter and the poet Wordsworth land, as I call it. Then, to Northumberland to stand and touch Hadrian’s wall.  I was […]

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The First Of A Compelling Invitation To Faith Leadership

The following is a true story from a former client many years ago.  At that time posting sex offenders online was a new resource.  She became concerned about a man whom she knew was teaching children’s Sunday school at her church.  He had been in jail for incest. She confirmed his identity through this then […]

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One Lie That Seems Comfortable to Believe; Time Heals All Wounds

I really believe in the 4 R’s of recovery of sexual assault.  I have lived and am living on this Unintended Journey.  I have worked with hundreds of clients.  I have extrapolated the sequence of this Unintended Journey through the above as well as being trained.  When I was an intern, I had a supervisor […]

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